If you’ve had a stressful time or stressful life events happen it’s ok to rest. In fact, it’s crucial. If we haven’t already experienced a highly stressful life event the chances are we will at some stage.
Things like the death of a loved one, job loss, separation, moving house, imprisonment, major illness or injury, marriage, retirement, the death of a spouse, marriage reconciliation and new family members are the top 10 stressful life events. They are pretty common amongst my peers and I’ve certainly experienced my fair share.
When I was a teen I had a lot of stressful life events happen all around the same time. Afterward, I got very sick with glandular fever and was later diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome and depression.
I needed rest basically. But I didn’t do that. Instead, I tried to escape my life in unhealthy ways, which put even more pressure on my body.
When our body is tired it needs the rejuvenation and regeneration that rest gives it. I know first hand how difficult this can be when your mind is racing.
There are times when we get pushed beyond our limits to get things done, show up and push on and we need all the energy we can get to do that.
It’s hard to switch off that adrenaline and it can turn to anxiety if we don’t actively try to come out of our heads and into our bodies.
Resting can be hard. I have had to learn over 20 years worth of tools to do this. Some tools work for a while then stop, others never used to work and work now. How we rest and what works for us is individual.
The point is you need to actively do something to help yourself to rest. You need a toolbox of tricks.
And please don’t beat yourself up for having a self-indulgent rest. It is as important as all those other things on your to-do list.
For me resting and relaxing is always at the top of my list. I just can’t do everything I need to without burning out if I don’t. It is part of my ongoing mental health plan.
Sometimes rest might be doing some art, yoga or meditation or it might just be laying in bed watching shows and eating comforting foods. Or it may be EFT, journaling, singing, dancing or sitting in nature.
The point is that I can do whatever I feel and listen to what my body needs and honour that. If I don’t I will just go into a very old pattern of burnout, fatigue, anxiety, and depression.
It has taken years to not only be aware of this in myself but also develop the tools and skills to manage my energy.
Life is always going to do unexpected things and, if you are like me, you may do unexpected things to reach your goals. Because I don’t settle for a life that is not full of my dreams and in alignment with my soul.
Either way, there is always going to be something that is hard, stressful and draining on our energy. Finding a way to manage ourselves as a whole energetic being that is affecting our internal and external worlds is key to living a happy and fulfilled life.
These days I move through life moment to moment holding my highest vision for the future and aligning with that daily. I set intentions for my feelings, I connect with nature, stay creative and constantly tune into my inner world.
This is my life’s work. I am so aware that we are all individual and, different things work for different people. I know that the only way to discover that is going deep inside of ourselves and asking the question.
What do I want?
What do I need?
What is the next step?
I’d love you to answer those questions in the comments if you feel like connecting and sharing. And if you want to explore this further drop me a line ✌🏻