If you’ve had a stressful time or stressful life events happen it’s ok to rest. In fact, it’s crucial. If we haven’t already experienced a highly stressful life event the chances are we will at some stage.
Things like the death of a loved one, job loss, separation, moving house, imprisonment, major illness or injury, marriage, retirement, the death of a spouse, marriage reconciliation and new family members are the top 10 stressful life events. They are pretty common amongst my peers and I’ve certainly experienced my fair share.
When I was a teen I had a lot of stressful life events happen all around the same time. Afterward, I got very sick with glandular fever and was later diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome and depression.
I needed rest basically. But I didn’t do that. Instead, I tried to escape my life in unhealthy ways, which put even more pressure on my body.
When our body is tired it needs the rejuvenation and regeneration that rest gives it. I know first hand how difficult this can be when your mind is racing.
There are times when we get pushed beyond our limits to get things done, show up and push on and we need all the energy we can get to do that.
It’s hard to switch off that adrenaline and it can turn to anxiety if we don’t actively try to come out of our heads and into our bodies.
Resting can be hard. I have had to learn over 20 years worth of tools to do this. Some tools work for a while then stop, others never used to work and work now. How we rest and what works for us is individual.
The point is you need to actively do something to help yourself to rest. You need a toolbox of tricks.
And please don’t beat yourself up for having a self-indulgent rest. It is as important as all those other things on your to-do list.
For me resting and relaxing is always at the top of my list. I just can’t do everything I need to without burning out if I don’t. It is part of my ongoing mental health plan.
Sometimes rest might be doing some art, yoga or meditation or it might just be laying in bed watching shows and eating comforting foods. Or it may be EFT, journaling, singing, dancing or sitting in nature.
The point is that I can do whatever I feel and listen to what my body needs and honour that. If I don’t I will just go into a very old pattern of burnout, fatigue, anxiety, and depression.
It has taken years to not only be aware of this in myself but also develop the tools and skills to manage my energy.
Life is always going to do unexpected things and, if you are like me, you may do unexpected things to reach your goals. Because I don’t settle for a life that is not full of my dreams and in alignment with my soul.
Either way, there is always going to be something that is hard, stressful and draining on our energy. Finding a way to manage ourselves as a whole energetic being that is affecting our internal and external worlds is key to living a happy and fulfilled life.
These days I move through life moment to moment holding my highest vision for the future and aligning with that daily. I set intentions for my feelings, I connect with nature, stay creative and constantly tune into my inner world.
This is my life’s work. I am so aware that we are all individual and, different things work for different people. I know that the only way to discover that is going deep inside of ourselves and asking the question.
What do I want?
What do I need?
What is the next step?
I’d love you to answer those questions in the comments if you feel like connecting and sharing. And if you want to explore this further drop me a line ✌🏻
Having the best life and everything you want means constantly BEING the best version of yourself at that moment in time as best as you can manage with the information that you have. This is the path to being who you always wanted to be. With each moment in time, we have a choice to move forward toward that version of ourselves and all we desire. We can do this in spite of the past. And we can do this to spite our ego and our fear.
It is not an easy task though. Constantly having the awareness of where we are out of alignment with ourselves is tiring. It is an ongoing battle with our old negative internal dialogues too. The fear and ego telling us we are not good enough, we are a failure and we can’t do it.
When you do this work and when you are striving towards anything, remember it IS work. And it IS tiring, emotional and stressful. When you feel like giving up, it is your soul calling for a rest. We have breaks from 9-5 day jobs, we need breaks from the internal work we do as well. Nobody is perfect and it takes time to learn anything new. So allow yourself the break. Have a rest, pull your energy in and come home to yourself and snuggle your soul.
Celebrate how far you have come and how you are that much closer to who you were always wanting to be and having everything you desire. Acknowledge that you have been doing the work and have been present and honest with yourself. Congratulate your body and soul with self-love and nurturing. Ground yourself through creative activities, play, being in nature and with those who love you without judgment or conditions.
Be mindful that when you do have a rest, you are not giving up. This is not a race, it is a long journey and we all need pitstops. You are allowed to ebb and flow as your energy requires. You can be paused and still moving forward. In this pause is where you allow your soul to integrate all the learnings from this school of life. It does this subconsciously. You don’t need to try. Just allow and receive all the magic that you have worked so hard to create.
And what if you could change your mind? What if it wasn’t set in stone? What if you went with your current feeling and just kept doing that every moment. Allowing yourself to be ever-changing, flowing and moving with the ease of liquid through life? Intuitively and blissfully moving forward one step at a time.
I would love to chat to you more about this dance of moving forward slowly and steadily in an intuitive way that works for you.
Let me know in the comments how you know when it is time to slow down for you.
And if you’d like to work with me send me a message.
If there is one thing that I know you need less of, that is pressure. We put some much pressure on ourselves already. How nice is it to be held in the void, given permission to slow and acknowledgement of our efforts? This is what I do, I gently hold your hand and walk with you and tune into your natural energy flow. I help you to see where your path of least resistance is and where you can take a breather.
Last year I was getting messages everywhere to slow down. Nature was telling me, the earth was telling me, my body was telling me, my soul was telling me. I even swam with a green sea turtle in the Great Barrier Reef that told me to slow down.
This was not a message I wanted to hear. I am tired of being slow. Being slow meant I was depressed, a failure, not achieving, alone and pathetic. I had my fair share of all of those over my lifetime. I have dreams now; I am fiery and energetic and take action. I am strong-willed and determined and driven. I’m a survivor; I’m an independent woman on a mission. I don’t have time to slow down!
But I needed to heed the signals and the messages. I knew that the universe would force me to slow down if I didn’t do it myself. I had learnt the hard way. I’d ignored those messages in the past and was forced to slow down with a serious ankle injury that took up to 18 months to recover from, breaking it twice in that time.
It did not make sense to me, I did not know how to slow down, my anxiety and my need to excel and achieve kept me in motion and prevented me from wallowing and falling in a heap. Making sense of slowing down was a journey I had to go on. A deep journey, into the darkness and back. Over and over and over. Even now, it is a constant daily awareness of my energy and checking in with myself.
For me, this journey was the height of self-development, spiritual development, business development and relationships. It was about balance, flow, connection and letting go. It was a battle with time, my children, rules and expectations. It constantly trusted the invisible. The unseen, the subtle flow of energies within and without.
I still can’t quite describe it as I feel I’m still in it, just emerging from the lesson of slowing down. I am implementing ways across my life to schedule slowness, to practice mindfulness and presence, to say no, to question and check in with me and my energy. My body knows, you see. It pulls me towards things or backs away. I have learnt to honour that.
And the beautiful thing about going slow is that I, in fact, speed up. Less haste, more speed, the turtle and the hare. All those age-old fables and sayings. I actually get them now. I embody them. I’m no longer frustrated and impatient, for they are my flags; they are the warning signs that I am going too fast.
And another bonus is, I don’t seem to get so many speeding fines in the mail 😉
Do you have a belief that is holding you back?
Maybe it is the belief that if you change you will lose something or someone? Or maybe it is the belief that if you put yourself out there you will be hurt or ridiculed? Or maybe it’s the belief that if you make too much money you will become shallow and mean? I often help women uncover these subconscious beliefs. What is yours?
THIS IS NOT YOUR INTUITION TALKING!
Let’s release this! It might hurt… but feeling is healing. It is a necessary part of letting go and moving forward.
Here’s one of the ways you can release this yourself! And anyone can do this.
Journal on your past hurt that created this belief. Simply by doing this, you are allowing the release. Let it go through burning the pages you write it out on. Set your intention to release through the power of the fire. Then go into nature and give your pain to Mother Earth. Sit quietly and tell her all about it. She can take it.
LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR INTUITION SAYS.
Then go and get pampered by someone else. Self-care is super important after a release. Raise your vibe and feel good in your body! Or go and dance, have sex, get a massage, something that shifts energy in your body to release. This all adds power.
RAISING YOUR VIBE ALLOWS YOUR INTUITION IN
The topic to journal on is: I release the belief of…. I release the feelings of …… I release the behaviors…….. I release the experience of…… I release the patterns…….I release the pain of……..
Keep wiring on each of those until there is no more to write or until you need a break. This will take as long as it takes. You may need to pause and come back to it later. You may need to do it daily until you feel you are no longer carrying it with you. The new moon and full moon is a great time to release but you can do it anytime.
So what is your belief that is holding you back from how you want to feel, who you want to be and what you want to have?